Friday, November 13, 2020

How to Attract the Love of Your Life (realistically)

 It sounds like you have set yourself up with a very difficult task. Love is the most complex of human emotions, and is based on an equally complex process of emotional learning. The love between two humans, in ideal circumstances, should be completely unconditional. On the other hand, there are plenty of cases where love has been lost for no good reason at all

If you expect your love interest to feel an emotion similar to the one you have for them, then chances are it will never happen. Love is not a rational process. Humans evolved with specific genes that make us particularly susceptible to this feeling, and we do not choose who we fall in love with.

The best way to attract the love of your life is to practice being more loving and empathetic towards people. This will help you let go of any unrealistic expectations, and make it easier for you to interact with others in a positive manner.

Do not let the thought of losing them from your mind. If they can't love you back, then it's better to know now than later.

If you are looking for a more practical approach, then I suggest that you develop yourself as a person first. This includes your physical appearance and mannerisms.

Also, it is important to be more selfless and compassionate. This will help you gain a better understanding of who you are as a person.

Clearly, if you want to attract the love of your life (LOTL), then it is important that your approach has a good chance for success. If you do not take this into account, no amount of effort will get the result you desire.

Now, what is meant by success? Here I would define it as doing everything you can to attract the LOTL into your life. This means that one cannot be satisfied with a less than 100% chance for success.

Therefore, one should only do actions that have a 100% chance for success.

The obvious way to do this is to drop an atomic bomb, and be the first person she sees after it explodes.

If this is not possible, then the next best thing would be to find a way to make sure she never sees anyone else. Therefore, it is important that you get her alone at all times.

This is most easily done by kidnapping her and locking her up in a room. If this is not possible, then it would mean that you are doing something wrong.

First, it is important to realize that you are not a thing. You are an organism. The first step in attracting the love of your life should be to recognize that this "love" business really has little or nothing at all to do with what you think about yourself. As long as you continue to identify as a separate self, then yes, there will always be unsatisfactoriness and lack of fulfillment for living beings like humans.

However, it is important to understand that there really is no such thing as a human being. We are all mental and physical manifestations of the universe. Each person is a manifestation of the same underlying stuff: energy/ matter/ consciousness.

Your consciousness is simply an echo of the consciousness of all. It is a reverberation, bouncing off countless other "selves" in the universe.

Because we are all manifestations of the same underlying stuff, we are really only one being in fact. We just have different perspectives.

The only reason that you don't recognize the unity of consciousness in others is because of your ego. Your ego keeps you from seeing that we are all manifestations of the same underlying stuff.

You are constantly trying to protect and validate your ego, which is really just a mental prison. It keeps you from seeing that we all have the same consciousness.

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I look out upon this world, and I see that most humans are not rational. They live in a state of delusion. A few of them have some vague understanding of reality, but they don't really understand it.

The reason for this is that humans are social animals. They need to be in the company of others, and they need to fit in with those around them.

If they were to admit that most people are irrational, and that the world is not what it seems, it would cause them too much cognitive dissonance. Their minds would break. So instead of thinking about such things, they ignore them.

I believe that the only way to attract a partner is to expose them to ideas they have never encountered before. Someone who pushes every boundary, someone whose mind has not been constrained by social norms.

Such a person may be very unusual. They might even seem crazy to others. And yet they will attract people who are also open-minded and tolerant.

It is possible that the person in question might not be able to love you back. But they will at least listen to your ideas, and think about them.

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The most important thing is to find a person who is genuinely attracted to you. There are many people who will put on an act of being interested in you, but the truth is that they are only pretending and all they want is some sort of return for their affections. Their feelings towards you do not stem from within them, but rather exist as a result of your actions towards them. If someone seems really into you and it's obvious that this interest comes from inside their own personality then this person has probably got good intentions.

The next thing is to really listen to what this person has to say. People are not just some sort of walking talking Barbie or Ken doll that you can dress up and take out in public. They have their own thoughts, feelings and emotions which they want to express. It's important that you're genuinely interested in finding out the things about this person that make them unique and special.

If you're interested in someone, then try to do something that shows them your interest without coming across as some sort of weirdo stalker. You don't need to buy them expensive things or go overboard with gifts, just get them a little gift from time to time and maybe say how good they look when they wear it. If you have a bit of cash on hand this might also be a good opportunity for you to splurge out on yourself and get dressed up in clothes that maybe make you feel uncomfortable.

Be patient and take your time with this one. You might be interested in someone, but that doesn't mean they're necessarily attracted to you as well. Don't get into a situation where you do something stupid and try anything inappropriate with them if it's not what they want. Just take it slow, let yourself fall in love with their personality and then maybe after a while ask them out on a date.

Make sure you're smiling and laughing a lot when you're with them, let yourself be vulnerable to them. If they ask questions about your life tell the truth; it's important that they get to know who you really are.

Sometimes it might be best to let yourself get hurt by this person, and then you can examine how they make you feel. There are many people who seem like they're really into you but when it comes down to it their feelings aren't real.

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